Fear The Walking Dead & Stepfamily Dynamics

I find it very interesting in watching this new program, Fear The Walking Dead that describes a "dysfunctional blended family"

What are I observed is a typical stepfamily, coping with typical stepfamily issues. The one exception is not a teenage boy appears

to have addiction issues -- which is not a typical issue -- but of course it does happen..

The stepcouple obviously moved in together recently sharing some very passionate kisses. And then there was the teenage stepdaughter 
ccoming out of the bathroom dressed in only a towel.

Given that this is a complex stepfamily with teenagers, it suggests that there are boundary issues that need to be addressed.

Furthermore we noticed that the teenage son who is living with his mother reluctant to visit his father and his new stepfamily - sound familiar

It is programs like these perpetuate the dysfunctional stereotype's about  stepfamilies. When in fact the TV  family is simply struggling with normal developmental issues.


When you watch television programs, it might be helpful to firstly adopt a critical view and secondly use this opportunity to educate others that what they are seeing a normal--albeit-- difficult stepfamily dynamics are normal.  Your actions will help to stigmatize stepfamilies.



Dianne Martin, Mom and Stepmom

March 13, 2016




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Posted by: administrator ON Sun, March 13, 2016 at 5:09:23 pm MDT


We know that living in the stepfamily is a very complicated situation.  And it is highly confusing and discombobulating for our kids as well.



I was reading another article or blog where the author referred to blended families .  Well  most of you know my thoughts about using the term blended instead of step.



Blended suggest that the process is easy and that everyone will just fit together without any lumps bumps or unsightly clumps that occur.



Well we all know that ain't going to true! 



Stepfamilies are all about colliding desires and conflicting needs -  which leave bumps, bruises, and wounded hearts.




So for example a four-year-old  is moving into a stepfamily. She will have a stepmother or stepfather she will have a stepbrother, or stepsister and they will be called stepsiblings.




She did not have a blended mother or a blended father she does not have a blended sister or blended brother.  So why or why is her family called a blended family???? Why is this--or any other-- child  entering a stepfamly be confused by our self inflicted identify crisis?




Wouldn't be ever so much easier for children if we used consistency in our terms?



Yes , unfortunatgely there are a host of negative stereotypical ideas about stepfamilies.



A sense of stigma attached to the term stepmom... we have our fairy tails and folklore to blame for the stigmatization of stepfamilies.  So best stop kids from hearing or reading fairy tales.


But it's time we stood up to be counted, to be proud of who we are and to put aside our identity conflicts and proudly proclaimed that we are


Stepparents, stepmom, stepdad, stepbrothers stepsisters,

step-grandparents and step-aunties and step-uncles.


Take care my Friends

Dianne Martin - Stepmom and Advocate

March 13, 2016

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