Stepkids: The Challenge
Have you ever noticed your stepkids respond to you differently in contrast to how they treat their parent?
It is understandable really. After all no one bother to ask them if they wanted to become a stepchild. And even if they were asked, they did not have the authority to nix the re-partnering plans.
Kids being kids often challenge their stepparent. But why?
Some of the negative reaction expressed towards you the stepparent is due to resentment around having another adult telling them what to do.
Unresolved grief and loss issues, stemming from their parent's separation and divorce often trigger strong reactions. And you are a handy target.
Some of the comments may also be due to confusion. The stepkids may be unclear what the house rules are and what authority the stepparent has for enforcing them.
Of course sometimes it is just plain orneriness!
What ever the reason, I bet 99.9% of stepparents will hear these types of comments.
Are you prepared? Do you have answers? Have you discussed this with your partner?
Dianne Martin: Mom, Stepmom and Grandma
October 3, 2015